If having a baby has taught me anything at all, it is to let go of being a perfectionist. Just being together has come to mean so much more to me than the little things I used to make a big deal of. Tim and I are so lucky to have very a supportive extended family that is always there for us and is always trying to lend a helping hand to make our life easier. Motherhood isn’t easy which means having a strong support system allows me to cope better with work and a baby at home - it really does take a village to raise a baby.
Being an entrepreneur, a wife and a mom, I needed myself to adapt into motherhood quickly. It wasn’t and still isn’t easy but it’s all about the journey in finding the sweet spot between work and family. I love working on my business as it helps me carve an identity for myself, and it gives me something to focus on in addition to being a mom.
I now work at home and have created a lovely set up for where I can focus. It isn’t always easy because sometimes I’ll be able to hear my baby crying in the next room and I would want to quickly attend to him - but I can’t because I would be in the middle of a call, or catching up on a deadline. But I’m still very grateful to for the chance to be near him and that’s something that constantly brings me joy.
My baby never stops teaching me to take a step back whenever necessary, stay grounded, and see the world from a new perspective. Things that were important to me before don’t take precedence anymore and family will always come first.
I definitely can’t juggle all the things I used to do like working, heading to the gym, and meeting friends for meals, because really, there’s only so much time in a day - especially for a new mom like myself. This is where letting go of being a perfectionist comes in handy, if I can’t seem to find the time to do it all in one day, I’ll just do it tomorrow, or the day after. It doesn’t mean that I’m not managing my time well, it just means I’m trying. There will always be things that I will have to say no to, or postpone in order to show up for my family, and that’s the conscious decision I’m making in an effort to put them first.
Inshallah there will be time later on in life for me to do the little things for myself. In the meantime, I'm just soaking in every opportunity I can to be present for my family and enjoy every irreplaceable moment together.
I love how motherhood has taught me to live a more conscious life, to take a step back when I need to, and let go of the things that aren’t important. Not once have I felt like I’m losing control of my life, if anything, it has given me a nice balance between my work and my family.
I’ve come to realise more than ever that women can handle anything and everything.