Boy have I had lots of tough times and obstacles in the past, and I don't doubt there will be many more challenges coming my way in the future.
I truly believe that for each and every one of us, at one time or another, our strengths will be tested, emotionally, mentally, sometimes physically. So there really is no point in asking "why me?". I get it, it's easier said than done, but if there's one thing I've learnt, it is to accept reality.
I was talking to my sister just yesterday - who is currently going through a tough time - and I told her to move past the negativity, reflect on what can be done in the future, and be grateful for what we have in front of us. Things can always always be 100 times worse, so it's always worth being grateful no matter what the situation is.
And I truly understand that it's hard to reason when we're shaken up by an unfortunate event, and to suddenly feel better because someone told us "what's meant to be will be". I, personally, wasn't able to instantly move on from adversity in the past no matter how hard I try. It definitely takes time.
Of course, allow yourself to grieve, allow yourself to feel sad, and acknowledge the fact that you are entitled to feel what you feel - be it sadness, fear, grief. Just don't hold on to it for too long because all it'll do is eat you up. What is important is that you recognise these feelings, take control of them, and respond to them with something more realistic so that you can move forward when you're ready.
Keeping a positive mindset is so important, especially in difficult times. Because if you let it kill you, it will kill you. Instead, give yourself the chance and the opportunity to reflect, to learn, to understand the world better, to grow and become stronger.
Sometimes things happen for a reason, you just don't know it yet. It may seem a bit cliche, but the darkest storm clouds really do have a silver lining. So, always trying to cultivate some positivity and don't allow the negativity to invade your mind, body and spirit.
Take care. PS - Self-Care During Grief & Loss