Being a mama is nothing like I have imagined it to be. Motherhood totally caught me by surprise and I remember feeling like I was suddenly bombarded with all kinds of emotions from every single aspect of my life. I understand that the postpartum phase I was facing may not be the same for every mom, but one thing I know for sure is that we must not forget to take care of ourselves - especially in such a fragile and delicate phase of motherhood.
With the day-to-day demands of being a mom, my own needs have naturally taken a back seat. I am prioritising my baby day in day out and to be honest, I have never felt such exhaustion in my entire life. I kept having to fight for some time to practice self-care because I just did not know how to juggle all that was going on. I didn’t know how to take care of myself, and my baby at the same time (on top of all the other responsibilities I had)
The responsibility of taking care of a tiny little human took up a great deal of space in my mind, body, and spirit. I remembered trying so hard to create a schedule for myself and Tim, to take turns to care for our little bundle of joy so that each of us can have some time to rest. It was tough, to say the least.
But again, remember that as a mother, we must pay attention to our needs and our cry for self-care as well. We can’t properly and efficiently take care of another person if we aren’t taking care of ourselves first.
Here’s a little list I made as a daily reminder for you to look after yourself whenever you can. It’s small, but I’m hoping it can bring some sense of love and zen back to your mind, body and spirit.
1. Keep hydrated throughout the day
2. Take a warm shower or bath at least once a day
3. Eat a balanced meal
4. Practice your gratitude checks
5. Connect with your partner
6. Don’t stress the little things, take things a day at a time
7. Be present and mindful, and connect with your spirit
8. Repeat positive affirmations like “I am a strong & loving mother”
Don’t deprive yourself of a little bit of self-care when you need it most. You’re doing great mama! P.S. On Showing Up For Yourself