Mom-shaming is a word I’m hearing more and more every day. We’ve all probably experienced it, and I don’t know why it’s there, but it’s there.
So many moms are being criticised today, privately and publicly for the parenting choices she makes that happens to be different from what others would do. Almost everything is open season, be it natural birth vs c-section, breastfeeding vs bottle feeding, working vs staying home, bassinet vs co-sleeping, socks vs no socks, nanny vs no nanny, burrito Halloween costume vs anything else, I mean, literally anything can be and will be criticised. No detail is spared, and it blows my mind how something so personal should ever be up for public debate.
As of late, I’ve noticed that it’s not always the obvious insults that shame us, its all the subtle and innocent comments, all the sideways glance, and little stares that kicks us right in our delicate mom hearts.
Online and offline, people would immediately put on their judgement hats when they see a mom walk past. Now with the overuse of social media, people have gotten so bold into thinking that they have the right to judge and scrutinise everything a mom does - from what they feed their babies, to how they carry them, to which school they send them to.
Even with breastfeeding, and in countries where breastfeeding in public is actually allowed, a lot of moms are still reluctant to do so because they are afraid of all the negative comments that might come their way.
If you find yourself on the receiving end of some hurtful comments, there is only one thing you can do and that is to walk, away. If you’re being harassed on social media, just put your phone down and focus on something else (like the amazing life you have with your cute little baby). You have the power to decide the kind of energy that you want surrounding you. If things (and people) are making you feel bad, just walk away.
Listen to your mom-hearts, and remind yourselves that there are a million ways to raise wonderful kids. Just because someone else is doing it differently doesn’t mean that you are doing it wrong. Only you know what is best and what works for yourself and for your family.